الأحد، 28 أبريل 2019

الربيع

 This Post is written by my dear friend Dr. Mervat Abdelraouf Lecturer at the English Department, Faculty of Education, Damanhur University



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الربيع

لي مع الربيع حكايا
في الربيع ولدت وفي الربيع أجمل ذكريات حياتي
احب الربيع وعندما تبدأ الزهور بالتفتح أشعر انني اولد من جديد بامال جديدة واقبال علي الحياة
مع قدوم الربيع احب ان اقتني رداء جديدا مبهجا .. عادة قديمة
فمع صباح كل عيد ربيع كانت هدية امي لي رداء جديدا مبهجا ومشرقا فيه كل الوان الربيع كانت تشتري القماش وتخيطه بيديها وحينما كنت ارتديه كنت أشعر وكأنني زهرة في بستان الكون نسمات الربيع الرائعة الدافئة تملا نفسي تفاؤلا وسعادة وحبا للكون وللبشر
في الربيع يكسو الله الطبيعة بالوان الجمال التي تخجل قبح العالم.
كبرت ولكن لا تزال تسكنني تلك الطفلة الربيعية التي تتوق لهدية الربيع.

الخميس، 25 أبريل 2019

Egyptian Gazette, April 25, 2019




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Happy When… Happy Despite

On my fortieth birthday, I made a massive self-discovery: I have been postponing happiness for the most part of my life. I was the "happy when" type, the one who always needed something to happen as a condition for her happiness.
Over the years, I have unconsciously deceived myself with the promise to be happy when I achieve something substantial or reach a big goal.  Regrettably, I could never keep the happiness promise because I would set another condition for happiness the moment I was finished with the previous one. I was always busy “doing” and never had the time for “being” happy.
I was not alone in this; almost all my family members and friends had the same “happy when” attitude:
I will be Happy when I get married.
I will be happy when I get that job.
I will be happy when I get my Ph.D.
I will be happy when the kids grow.
I will be happy when they graduate and get married.
I will be happy when I move to the new house.
I will be happy when I lose those extra kilos.
I will be happy when I get my dream car.

And I was happy for all these things… but only briefly since I had to hurry up and set a new goal.  I tended to take all my achievements and possessions for granted and aspire for something bigger.  My craving for “doing” more simply exceeded the longing for “being” happy. 
Unconditional  Happiness

Now that the realization struck me like a tornado, I attempted to remember the last time I was unconditionally happy, a time when I did not set a target and just went with the flow.  To my surprise, I had to go as far back to the time when I was a child! I saw myself playing on the beach with my sister, brother and some twelve cousins. My parents, uncles and aunts were sitting under three overlapping umbrellas talking, laughing and eating as if there were no worries in their world.   

I tried to figure out when I switched from this care-free, “just be happy for now” to “a happy when" attitude. More questions kept buzzing in my head:  was it a personal trait of mine or a cultural thing?  Was it the result of being brought up to feel happy only when I could achieve my family’s pre-decided goals?  Did it have to do with an outdated educational system which stressed academic excellence as a condition for happiness and an end in itself?
   
Guilt-flavored Happiness
Instead of coming up with a clear- cut answer, the bee-hive in my head produced another sweeping discovery.  I realized that every time I caught myself feeling happy for one little thing or another, the feeling was coupled with a sense of guilt!  How can I be happy while a relative is still sick? Or when sibling is stressed out before a final exam?  Or when a friend has just lost her husband?  The reasons to worry and the things to fret over were always there. Deep down, I had the notion that as long as they existed, I had no right to be happy.  Thus, happiness itself turned into a burden; it became another reason for self-torture and entailed a sense of guilt for not being supportive or, at least, appreciative of others’ feelings.
Thus, seizing the opportunity to grab a moment of fleeting happiness would be ruined by my automatic pilot taking over; it would drag me down a spiral to the real world. My preset- to -guilt mind would shun the happiness urge and start to do its real business: spotting a problem and trying to solve it, insisting that happiness can be postponed but problems cannot.

Happy or Sane?
Delving deeper, I found out that the tendency to postpone happiness is an inherent cultural issue.  The typical Egyptian phrase “Khair Allah oma eg3alo khair"- meaning may God not turn this cheerful situation into the opposite- is proof of my assumption.  If you are with friends or family and a fit of laughter strikes for one reason or another, you will always find a sane person volunteering to remind you of the “sacred Egyptian phrase” as if you have no right to be so happy.  The fact that the phrase has the name of Allah Almighty gives it another layer of “fake” validity: it makes it sound like some kind of a religious supplication as if God is likely to punish us for feeling happy!
Why cannot we just replace the usual" happy when" with a "happy despite" attitude? Choose to be happy despite the pain, the traffic jams, the loss of a dear one or the failure to get the job. If there is one thing I know for sure by now it is this: HAPPINESS is a CHOICE.  It is such a subjective, relative, brief and elusive feeling.  I simply do not know what makes you happy and I am not in a position to give advice about it. All I can tell you here is how the little things that go unnoticed in a busy day can make me happy once I took the decision to be so.  I can feel joyful for something as simple as sipping a cup of tea with a friend,  exchanging heartfelt smiles with a stranger,  a one- day- trip with my husband to a park or a beach, a bunch of lilies in a vase by my desk, watching a movie with my kids, or reading a good book. Happiness is short and elusive; find what makes you happy and grab a moment or two every day by purposefully choosing to be HAPPY DESPITE everything.

الثلاثاء، 23 أبريل 2019

ُEgyptian Gazette, April 22, 2019





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Celebrating time travel machines

By Dr Laila Abdel Aal Alghalban
Professor of linguistics
Faculty of Arts
Kafrelsheikh University

“I’m telling you all tonight — we will rebuild this cathedral together. This is probably part of the French destiny. And we will do it in the next years. Starting tomorrow, a national donation scheme will be started that will extend beyond our borders," Macron spoke from the scene of the devastated Notre Dame Cathedral in Paris.

Many people around the world stayed up all night long watching France's icon and cathedral  of cathedral in flames. The tragedy shocked many people of all faiths; not only the cathedral fans but also those who have never been to or heard about it. Watching a human heritage icon blazing causes a thunderous shock and deep  grief that recall similar feelings we used to have in similar tragedies when masterpieces of high value for humanity from around the world including historic churches, mosques, castles, libraries, opera houses, theaters, palaces  and significant natural habitats got destroyed in wars, earthquakes, fires, or due to neglect or demolition. What makes us so connected to the past and sets our feelings on fire this way? Why do people rush to rebuild the devastated treasures at a moment when national spirit is at its highest point and purest form as the tragedy shakes off the dirt and rust hiding its sparkle and extinguishing its flames? And how can the lessons learned help celebrate World Heritage Day this month?

 A treat to eyes and souls

 The captivating emotional bond to heritage, along with the economic( tourist, commercial and industrial) impact of  the cultural industry associated with it and the sustainable development it brings to our communities, grants us a sense of belonging to a certain group of people. We, accordingly, embrace their values and worldview, and cherish the legacy that tells their gripping stories. " Here walked our ancestors, battled life's ups and downs, and gave inspirational lessons," one would say to him/herself during a walking tour to historical sites. Each site keeps telling its story to visitors every day and still hides a lot creativity and secrets to be uncovered for future visitors.  It is that emotional bond with heritage that fuels our commitment to do all what it takes to preserve it as an extra memory to keep our past, present and future.

' Time is the fire in which we burn'

We are hardwired to connect to stuff in our lives: our old clothes, books, toys, tools, etc. We keep them everywhere: in balconies, house roofs and closets. That attachment or nostalgia feeds our hunger to freeze time. " Time is the fire in which we burn,” the American poet Delmore Schwartz once wrote. " Did I really meet that person before or go through that experience? Did those things happen to me?," you may ask yourself when you flick your old photos. But you instantly assure yourself, " Yes, they are true. The photos say so." You no longer question your memories. Attachment to our old stuff enables us to smell our old days, and so is our attachment to heritage. Nations would go the extra mile to protect their heritage and panic about any potential threat to it.

    Heritage is not only old buildings but also all the aspects of human experience and creativity manifested in our beliefs, knowledge, myths, clothes, food culture, books, documents, and all the components of our surroundings.  All of which melt in our tangible heritage pot to shape our identity. The passion for cultural heritage definitely helps younger generations, who wrestle an identity crises due to the storms of globalization, become more conscious of their roots and take pride in the legacy of their ancestors. 

Boosting solidarity and cultural awareness

 Numerous amazing aspects of  solidarity and cultural awareness have been crystal clear in Notre Dame tragedy.  Donations have been raised from ultra rich tycoons, corporations, institutions, countries, international organizations and heritage lovers. However, what intrigued me most was how so magnificently the French people reacted to the devastation of their beloved cathedral. They sat on the opposite side of the river, watching in tears one of the city's landmarks crumbling and many of its irreplaceable items gone. Notre Dame fire has united the French people from all backgrounds and pushed them to grip on their collective identity, on what unites them rather than what divides them. They have become more determined than ever to keep the cathedral open.  So a wooden cathedral is to be built in the vicinity of Notre Dame to receive the endless stream of visitors flocking to the site. School trips to the cathedral have not stopped, either. The purpose is to get young generations involved in the pains, hopes and determination to rebuild the cathedral. 

 The lure of time travel experience.
  
The tragedy has made it imperative to spot cultural heritage on world heritage list. The inscription on the UNESCO's list would guarantee international and national promotion of the candidate treasures, raise awareness about the need to preserve them,  fund the preservation work and do follow up procedures to ensure the safety of the inscribed items. The tragedy also coincides with the World Heritage Day, celebrated every year on 18 April. It is an occasion to  promote visiting heritage sites, using banners and links, and writing articles on their magnificent value to humanity. A couple of days ago, I read  that the government of Malta, celebrating the World Heritage Day, has offered every senior citizen and two accompanying youths "free and unlimited access to all Heritage Malta’s sites and museums offering a unique opportunity to elders to connect and share authentic and meaningful experiences with the younger generation." In India, breathtaking monuments were open for free on that day. In  Britain, the lure of historical sites has been a major selling strategy to increase holiday bookings. The occasion is also a very special opportunity for professional  and amateur photographers to capture the beauty of many remote areas almost no one has ever to and introduce them to the world . Everywhere, visiting cultural heritage sites is literally a stunning time travel experience.

  Finally, we are a nation with the richest cultural wonders in the world. This tragedy should be a wakeup call to safeguard our heritage and inscribe dozens and dozens of its treasures on the UNESCO's lists. Let us keep our time travel machines running!












الخميس، 18 أبريل 2019

The Egyptian Gazette, Thursday, April 18th, 2019




Be a Lotus


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Are you going through a a really difficult phase of your life?
Do you think the circumstances of your life are unbearable?
Are crushing financial problems preventing you from reaching your potential?
Do you have to deal with extremely difficult people?

If your answer to any of these questions is a “yes”, simply BE A LOTUS. Yes, you read this right. Just be a lotus.  Why a lotus?  Let’s explore it together.

Be self-sufficient

The lotus flower, referred to as water lily, is an extremely beautiful bowl-shaped flower with broad, flat leaves that float above water. It is both ornamental and sweet smelling and is surrounded by circular green leaves called lily pads that float around it in a spectacular scene of beauty and color. Unlike other delicate flowers, a lotus requires no special care since it grows naturally in ponds, lakes, slow-moving streams, and even swamps.    A lotus, then, depends on no one; is self-sufficient and self-providing, are you?

Be grateful for what you have, be yourself

The Lotus actually starts its journey of growth deep under the mud, in the dark bottom of the water until it makes its way to the surface.  The flower gracefully extends out of the water and blossoms into fifteen white, pink and sometimes blue oval shaped petals that spread open to savor the sun rays.  The lotus shares its beauty and perfume with the world while we humans fail to count our blessings and feel grateful for them. Instead, we keep complaining about our hard circumstances and allow them to shackle our progress in life. Can we be a lotus in this sense?

Be strong and transcend your limitations

Despite its splendor and elegance, the lotus flower thrives in the mud; it can grow in swamps and live in muddy or even contaminated water.  However, you will always find it spotless clean and untouched by impurity.  Its leaves shed the dirt away and never allow themselves to get smeared or spotted by it.    Can we humans be that immune to our surroundings?  Can we rise above our circumstances and origins and transcend the ugliness of the real world and keep thriving and moving on by sheer will and inner strength?   Can we be a lotus in this sense?

Be compassionate and generous

During the day, a lotus is out and about; it is there in its colorful splendor in the middle of lovely green pads sharing its beauty with the beholder.   Together, they provide shade and shelter to tiny water creatures which cling to them.  It is not only the spectacular scene of beauty that makes the lotus a unique flower, but the unconditional protection and providing for other creatures as well. Can we be generous to others like a lotus is? Can we provide another human being with protection, care or maybe just a little sympathy that will help them move through life knowing that there is someone to lean on?  Can we be a lotus in this sense?

Be wise, detached and self-caring

With sunset, the lotus closes its leaves to protect its curious flat seedcase center from night predators.  It is wise enough to shut the outer world away when it has to only to have a new birth with the next day, are we humans that wise?  Can we decide when to leave everything behind and retreat into ourselves to nourish and recollect our energy to face the world anew?  Can we be a lotus in this sense?

The Lotus as a Symbol

In Ancient Egypt
It is no wonder the lotus flower is one of the most unique symbols of almost all the ancient cultures of our planet.  In ancient Egypt, the lotus is symbol and icon in the mythology and legends ; it is widely depicted in ancient Egyptian art symbolizing the process of rebirth and regeneration of the dead upon entering the underworld.  It also symbolized the sun itself, and was thus closely associated with Atum-Ra, the Sun god and later with Nefertum, god of perfume.  Even more, it was used to symbolize our splendid Upper Egypt.

As an art motif, the lotus was widely drawn in sacred places throughout ancient Egypt.  It ornamented the tops of pillars in temples; it was there in the tomb Hieroglyphics, engraved on walls, depicted on papyrus, and it proudly topped the  thrones and headdresses of the pharaohs.

In Buddhism

A lotus symbolizes purity of the body, the tongue, and mind.  According to Buddhism, every human being has the potential to become perfect and enlightened, as long as he/she is keen on reaching the light.  The analogy of the human self to a Lotus is clear as while rooted in the mud, its flowers blossom above the muddy waters of earthly desire.  It is also symbolic of detachment as drops of dirty water easily slide off its petals.  Many Hindu gods, and the Buddha himself,  are depicted sitting or standing on a Lotus to symbolize the ability to overcome the pain that prevails in the material world and to transcend it and be enlightened, just like the Lotus flower.

Be a Lotus

Delicate and beautiful as it may appear to be, a lotus flower had gained its reputation as strong, pure, generous and perfect throughout cultures and times.  It also has its scientifically- proven medicinal benefits but let’s save this for another time. For now let’s just try to be as graceful, strong, pure, loving and generous as a LOTUS.